March 17, 2009

hatching something new

We've been in the kitchen for a while, and we're ready to take First Born Son 3.0 out of the oven. But it might only be half-baked.

In other words, we've made some changes to the blog (and there are more to come).

A very special "hat tip" to the little brother for the pic of the eggs (from Singapore) and to Leslie Elizondo for re-designing our banner.

Stay tuned for more about the heart of the blog, a new U2 review, commentary on the 6th anniversary of the Iraq War, and a story about setting a happy place on fire.

January 31, 2009

first born daughter

On January 23, 2009 at 12:28 in the morning we welcomed our first child into the world. She weighed 7 lb. 15 oz. and was 20.5" long. Both mother and baby are doing wonderful.

We named her Sadie, which is a Hebrew name meaning "princess" (the Arab/Hebrew combinations continue :)

Before we were even married Jenn said we needed to have our first child before I turned 36. Well, my 36th birthday was on January 28... which means I made it with 5 days to spare. For those of you who know me well, I have always managed to wait until the last minute to get things done, and I guess this was no exception.

Sadie has had quite the first week: The worst ice storm in Arkansas history came through two days after she came home from the hospital. A quick drive around Fayetteville reveals a war zone left after an epic battle between ice and trees... with the trees suffering shock and awe. We lost power for a good while a couple of times, which meant candles and extra blankets during mid-night feedings. We had family staying both with us and at a hotel. But when the power went off for good at the hotel we shuffled sleeping arrangements and everyone moved into our house. So for almost 3 days we had:

newborn baby + ice storm + no power + 7 people under our roof = come Holy Spirit!!!

But all is well. We are quickly adjusting to the "new normal" which includes broken sleep, sudden high-pitched screams and endless diaper changes (all of which are SO worth it to enjoy the beauty of parenthood). But F.B.S. has not forgotten about some of the other big events last week, like a new President and the latest out of the Middle East. Stay tuned...


Can You See Me Now: Calling Sadie's uncle in Singapore minutes after she was born.


First Born Blanket: Leaving the hospital in the same blanket my mother knitted & brought me home in 36 years ago.


Ice, Ice Baby:  Covered in a 1/4" shell of ice, my truck tells the tale of the storm.

January 19, 2009

truth in advertising



I once came across an ad in the New Yorker for Israeli tourism. Above the image of a woman dancing freely on a peaceful Tel Aviv beach was the phrase:

"You'll love Israel from the first Shalom."

At the bottom right was the campaign tag line:

"ISRAEL. No one belongs here more than you."

Most good advertising paints a distorted, if not utopion, view of reality. But they are expected to have some element of truth. Shalom of course means "peace" but it also implies the idea of "complete" or "perfect." So compare this advert - with it's notion of shalom coupled with the idea of everyone being welcome - to this map of Palestinian loss of land from 1946 - 2000. The green represents land owned by Palestinians, the white Jewish.


Ethnic cleansing is defined as "the killing or mass expulsion of members of an unwanted ethnic or religious group in a society."

Consider the following:

> Palestinians in the Gaza Strip may not stay in or establish residence in the West Bank (even if they have family there, which many do).

> Palestinians are not allowed to enter East Jerusalem (only Israeli Arab citizens).

> Palestinians are not allowed to travel in or out of the country from Ben-Gurion Airport in Tel Aviv.

> Palestinians who work in Israel must have a work permit (that their employer must apply for in person).

> Permits are required to go the hospital in East Jerusalem (the applicant must provide an invitation from the hospital and a complete medical history).

> Permits are also needed to farm land, travel to see family in other territories, transfer goods, etc.

Of course there are over 600 Israeli checkpoints which Palestinians must maneuver to get around in their own land (and the number keeps increasing despite promises to decrease).  And don't forget: Palestinians do not get a vote in the government that establishes these rules and regulations.  

During this most recent war between Israel and Gaza, one of the most ignored questions was: Why? Why is there so much animosity towards Israel from Occupied Palestine? To blame it on religion or culture is too simple and too ignorant. Yes, citizens of Israel have a right to live free from rocket fire. But can you imagine the United States tolerating any other place in the world where people are not allowed to vote, travel, work, or otherwise live as human beings because of their ethnicity?  

How tragic that a people who suffered one of history's worst ethnic cleansings have a government that engages in another form today. Sadly, too many American politicians do more than just allow for it... they almost encourage it. And what's more, the only one in the "media" who seemed to call it out during the war was the Jewish comedian.




(Palestinian restrictions & permit info from Haaretz - Jan. 19, 2007)

January 06, 2009

on prophets & palestinians


The words of the Hebrew prophet Isaiah. For those who have ears to hear...


Shout! A full-throated shout!

Hold nothing back—a trumpet-blast shout!

Tell my people what's wrong with their lives,

face my family Jacob with their sins!

They're busy, busy, busy at worship,

and love studying all about me.

To all appearances they're a nation of right-living people—

law-abiding, God-honoring.

They ask me, 'What's the right thing to do?'

and love having me on their side.

But they also complain,

'Why do we fast and you don't look our way?

Why do we humble ourselves and you don't even notice?'


Well, here's why:


The bottom line on your 'fast days' is profit.
You drive your employees much too hard.
You fast, but at the same time you bicker and fight.
You fast, but you swing a mean fist.
The kind of fasting you do
won't get your prayers off the ground.
Do you think this is the kind of fast day I'm after:
a day to show off humility?
To put on a pious long face
and parade around solemnly in black?
Do you call that fasting,
a fast day that I, God, would like?

"This is the kind of fast day I'm after:
to break the chains of injustice,
get rid of exploitation in the workplace,
free the oppressed,
cancel debts.
What I'm interested in seeing you do is:
sharing your food with the hungry,
inviting the homeless poor into your homes,
putting clothes on the shivering ill-clad,
being available to your own families.
Do this and the lights will turn on,
and your lives will turn around at once.
Your righteousness will pave your way.
The God of glory will secure your passage.
Then when you pray, God will answer.
You'll call out for help and I'll say, 'Here I am.'


If you get rid of unfair practices,

quit blaming victims,

quit gossiping about other people's sins,

If you are generous with the hungry

and start giving yourselves to the down-and-out,

Your lives will begin to glow in the darkness,

your shadowed lives will be bathed in sunlight.

I will always show you where to go.

I'll give you a full life in the emptiest of places—

firm muscles, strong bones.

You'll be like a well-watered garden,

a gurgling spring that never runs dry.

You'll use the old rubble of past lives to build anew,

rebuild the foundations from out of your past.

You'll be known as those who can fix anything,

restore old ruins, rebuild and renovate,

make the community livable again.

Isaiah 58 (The Message)


November 17, 2008

first born broadcast

Last month I was given the opportunity to share at Central United Methodist Church in Fayetteville, Arkansas. I was given the final Sunday in a series on Abraham (which also happened to be World Communion Day).

I delivered my usual First Born Son "stump speech." Those of you who have been with F.B.S. for a while have heard this before (though there are a couple of re-mixes and additions).

If you want to give it a listen, you can find it here.

Also, I am a (sometimes) regular contributor to the Sojourners blog God's Politics.

You can read my pieces here.

Salaam. Shalom. Peace.

November 04, 2008

family politics

When my grandmother was 9 years old she met Warren G. Harding. Her father worked for the railroad and so knew that the Harding's train would be stopping in town. So he brought his little girl to meet the President. But my grandmother never tells many people about it because, as she says, “He just wasn’t a real good president."

When she was in high school, my mother skipped school and headed over to Rice stadium in Houston to hear John F. Kennedy’s now famous, “Why Go to the Moon” speech. Later, as a freshman at the University of Houston, she sat across the dais from Kennedy as he gave a speech the night before he was killed in Dallas.

My family has always been into politics. And they have almost always gone Democrat

Just three weeks before he died in 1984, my grandfather was extreamly sick, and so his pastor came out to see him. The election was a couple of days away, with Ronald Reagan running for re-election against Walter Mondale.

“Pastor, who you votin’ for?” my grandfather asked.

“Now Charlie,” the pastor said, “you know my wife and I don’t discuss politics and religion.”

“Yeah… but who you votin’ for?” he asked again, undeterred.

“Well… who are you votin’ for Charlie?” the pastor asked back.

“Straight Democratic ticket all the way,” he answered.

“Well, we voted straight Republican ticket all the way.”

“So,” my grandfather responded, “who’s gonna take care of all the poor people then?”

I, on the other hand, didn’t follow in my family’s political footsteps.

When I was in 5th or 6th grade, I got to go listen to Ronald Reagan give a speech because I was in Boy Scouts, and they wanted a bunch of us in our uniforms standing around for the cameras.

I also met George W. Bush at a country western dance hall when he was running for governor of Texas for the first time.

But it was in 1992 - my freshman year of college - when I voted for the first time. George H. W. Bush was running for reelection against Bill Clinton. I came home for the weekend, and my parents and I went out together to an early voting poling station.

This being my first election, my mother brought her camera and took pictures:

Me signing in.

Me getting my ballot.

Me going behind the little partition.

Me putting my ballot in the box.

But she also took some pictures of my father, too. This was also his first election. After living in the country for 21 years, my father had finally become a United States citizen in 1990. Tonight was his first time to vote... ever.

As soon as we walked out the door, my father asked me, “So, who did you vote for?”

“George Bush,” I replied.

“You did what?”

Wrong answer. America was fresh off the Gulf War, and my father was no fan of Bush. He was no fan of Hussein, either. But Bush had bombed his homeland back into the stone ages to save on the price of oil, and now his first-born son had given his first vote to this man.

My father wouldn’t talk about it again.

I didn’t vote again until 2000, during the infamous Bush-Gore election. Once again, I cast my ballot for George W. Bush. That did it for my father. The depth of connection between father to son that can only be understood on a Middle Eastern level spilled all over. His son had voted against his father. And his son had voted for the son of that man.

I wish I could say I did so out of some sort of political conviction or understanding of the issues. But the truth is, I did it for one reason and one reason only: Because my church told me to.

To be fair, they didn’t broadcast it from the pulpit on Sunday morning or print it in the church bulletin. But the general consensus in conversations and Bible studies was that Christians can only vote one way, and that way is Republican. Vote any other way, and you’re no longer in God’s will. Good luck with your soul.

These folks were serious in the belief that God loved America if and only if a Republican was in the White House. Basically our country chose once every four year whether or not to be in God’s will.

The "Good News" was that God loved America... and if other countries and people also loved America then God would love them, too.

When Pat Robertson ran for President in 1984, I remember tables set up in the hallway outside the sanctuary with his campaign stickers and paraphernalia sitting next to the monthly Bible study guides and missionary newsletters.

When Bill Clinton cheated on his wife in the Oval Office and then lied about it in an investigation, I remember how many folks at my church loved that he had been busted.

They hated Clinton, and did not hesitate to say so. He was liberal. He was evil. He was immoral. When Clinton confessed that “he had sinned” and asked for forgiveness, they tasted blood. Never mind that so many of the parents who stated - with righteous indignation - that “how dare Clinton say he was a Christian like them” had kids of their own in the youth group who were shagging like Oval Office jack-rabbits.

It was not just that they disliked his politics. It was that they hated his very Democratic soul. But their tune changed instantly when Bush entered the White House. Now, if anyone criticized the President on the smallest issue, they remained you that the Bible commands us to pray for your leaders and do what they say. When the United States invaded Iraq again, any debate on the war was ended with, “Yes, but God ordains his leaders and so we cannot question them.” Basically, if the leader was a Republican, then they had a free "Get Out Of Sin"card.

Democrat = not my President.

Republican = God commands me to pray for and obey that man.

(Of course, I have always wanted to know that if God ordains our leaders and we’re not supposed to question God's choices, then where does that leave us with Hitler and Hussein?)

It was during the second Gulf War that I began to question what I had always been taught in my church about politics. How was Clinton’s lying to get into an intern’s pants worse than Bush’s lying to get into war?

I became disillusioned while sitting in church services where the pastor preached against the horrors of abortion, but supported the horrors of destruction in the Middle East and the innocent children who suffer there. It didn’t make sense to me to sit in the pew during the “pastoral prayer” as the petitions went on and on against the sorrow of gay marriage, while I could count half a dozen women around me who were divorced because of cheating husbands.

Between 2000 and 2004 I realized I had been missing something. I realized that God is, as it has been said before, neither a Republican nor a Democrat.

Last year I typed a simple letter to my father. I dated it, and then wrote:


Dear Father,

I apologize for casting my vote George W. Bush in the 2000 presidential election. At the time I did not imagine that my vote would support the death and destruction of your homeland of Iraq.

Since his illegal invasion of Iraq in 2003 I have renounced my support and I now know it was wrong to ever give it in the first place. I tried to make amends for my mistake by voting against him in 2004. However, I know that alone does not suffice. Please accept my apology, for I am truly sorry.


I signed it. The letter now sits in a frame above his office desk.

My vote for Kerry in 2004 had more to do with sending a message against the policies of Bush than it did with voting for Kerry.

So this election, I have voted for Barack Obama. My father is thrilled. My grandmother, who was born in a time when neither African-Americans or women could vote, had the opportunity to vote for a woman in the primaries and an African-American in the general election. How cool is that?

But many close to me will say that for me to be a Christian and a pastor and then to vote for Obama is wrong. But I have learned that, as a Christian, no candidate - or party, or platform, or president - fully represents the values and convictions that Christ calls His people to.

For me, the Democratic candidate is closer to what I believe, though I don’t agree with everything. I have learned that to truly follow Christ means that to the conservatives I will look too liberal, and to the liberals I will look too conservative.

When God’s people in the Old Testament said they wanted a political leader, God responded, “Really? Are you sure?"

He didn’t think it was a good idea, but he answered their request anyway. In the end, it had a lot to do with their destruction and exile. Maybe that should tell the Church something: that putting too much stock in your President is dangerous. Maybe Christ is calling his people to something radically different than abdicating to partisan politics. Jesus said something to that effect in Luke 22 when he stated:

“In this world the kings and great men lord it over their people, yet they are called ‘friends of the people.’ But among you it will be different. Those who are the greatest among you should take the lowest rank, and the leader should be like a servant. Who is more important, the one who sits at the table or the one who serves? The one who sits at the table, of course. But not here! For I am among you as one who serves.


So what do I now look for in a President? Well, Thomas Merton says it best, and based on his standard I don’t know if I will see this man or woman in my lifetime:

“Will you end wars by asking men to trust men who evidently cannot be trusted? No. Teach them to love and trust God; then they will be able to love the men they cannot trust, and will dare to make peace with them, not trusting in them but in God. For only love – wich means humility – can cast out fear, which is the root of all war.”

 
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